ONE DAY, YOU WON’T CARE ANYMORE…
Ever found yourself tangled in a web of thoughts, where the ‘what ifs’ and ‘should haves’ seem to spin endlessly? What if the key to freeing yourself from this mental chaos lies in the simple realization that, someday, you just won’t care anymore?
You know what I’m ridiculously good at? Getting lost in my thoughts. Seriously, if overthinking were an Olympic sport, I’d be standing on the podium with a gold medal, contemplating if I really deserved it. But here’s the thing that snaps me out of that mental spiral: One day, none of this will matter. Not in a dark, existential crisis way, but in a "wow, I actually don’t give a damn" kind of way. And honestly, that’s a pretty sweet thought.
I like to think my brain came up with this as a sneaky way to protect itself—a built-in, anti-overthinking alarm. Or maybe it’s just who I truly am when I’m not busy trying to impress the world. Either way, I wouldn’t be me without those moments where something seemed pointless but ended up being weirdly important.
Here’s the thing: I love thinking. It keeps me moving forward, seeing the bright side, and imagining all the good stuff in life. But overthinking? Ugh. It’s like that one person who overstays their welcome and never takes a hint to leave. It makes me panic-text friends for validation (or ChatGPT, because hey, why not?), all while knowing deep down that I’ve got this. Overthinking is the least productive hobby—throwing doubts at the wall to see which one sticks. Spoiler: none of them do.
When I catch myself sliding into that overthinking abyss, I slam on the brakes. Why drag things out and torture myself? There’s no “perfect” moment waiting like a fairy godmother with a checklist. No magic word that’ll suddenly make everything fall together or fall apart. Things either work out, or they don’t. Full stop.
Have you ever noticed how “OMG, this is too much!” can be the flipside of “Aww, that’s so sweet!”? It’s really just a reflection of someone’s level of interest. The difference might seem subtle, but it’s significant. People’s reactions reflect their own perspectives, not your worth.
I spent so long trying to balance myself only to realize that I don’t need to. I am who I am because I am who I am. The love I have in my life comes from one big reason… MY people think “I am so sweet.” Read that again, however you like. Then think about it.
Not everyone is going to think you’re the bee’s knees, and that’s cool. It doesn’t mean they’re terrible people. It just means they’re not YOUR people. And it doesn’t mean you need to change a single thing about yourself. You’re not an IKEA shelf that needs constant adjusting to fit into someone else’s idea of “just right.” Be true to yourself rather than continually changing to meet others’ expectations.
When I think about the love I have in my life, it reminds me that I don’t need to do backflips to keep it. It’s there because I’m me, in all my too-muchness or not-enoughness. But the right people? They’re all in for it. No notes, no edits. They’ll see your quirks as gifts, not glitches.
So yeah, don’t overthink it. Be your wonderfully chaotic self, and act. And if things don’t turn out the way you pictured, it does not mean it’s on you. Just act; most things in life are better figured out sooner than later.
Trust yourself and your instincts. You deserve to be surrounded by people who are on your same wavelength, matching your energy and enthusiasm. What might be perceived as “too much” by some is what makes others think even more highly of you.
One day, you won’t care anymore—and not in a sad, defeated way, but in a “thank God I’m free” kind of way. And when that day comes, everything will click.
Lots of love,
Elena
